The key concept of Jesper Juul's family approach is "relationship instead of education." In this book, the renowned family therapist presents the five foundational pillars that can lead to a successful family life: he explains the significance of cooperation and integrity, emphasizes the priority of self-esteem over self-confidence, describes how to take personal responsibility, why parents must act as beacons, and how to properly practice the art of saying "no." His aim is to provide impulses for constructively addressing conflicts and to help parents build a relationship of equality with their children. This is a concentrated summary of experiences from 35 years of family therapy.