"Marriage is," according to Bantu wisdom, "like putting a snake in your pocket". It's dangerous. Even more dangerous is the silence in the relationship, because it is the silence of the relationship. That the speechless couple find words again, recognize their truth and develop, that is what this book is about: The divorce avalanche - civil war for two or departure for new shores? Our characters - our relationship. Lust and the burden of sexuality. Children as love killers. The external relationship: crisis or opportunity? The dialogue - can opener for the soul. Love contracts in the partnership. Separation or new beginning?.