In the end, there remains the pain and the question, why? This book aims to provide clarification. It is directed at everyone dealing with borderline personality disorder. The goal of this book is to explain the dynamics of a borderline relationship - on both a rational and emotional level. Based on their own experiences, Suzi Pavic and Ed Hellmeier understand that education and understanding are important for both those affected and their partners in order to better cope with this complex illness. The authors do this in simple terms and provide clarity about what lies behind common technical terms. They also debunk a few clichés along the way. A guidebook.