Is the child already wanting to move out at 6? At home, they talk a big game, but at school, they can't get a word out? Do parents need to be chauffeurs in their second job, or can the child be allowed to go alone now? One thing is clear: the years 5-10 present parents with a variety of challenges. The authors of the bestseller on phases of defiance help in dealing with children's and parents' fears and present alternative parenting approaches. They address mutual letting go, trust, school enjoyment and frustration, family happiness, and respect. In their usual light-hearted manner, with practical examples and at eye level, they demonstrate why the years 5-10 are an immensely important window for education. This is where the foundations for a "manageable" puberty are laid, and important values and habits are developed that last a lifetime: empathy, perseverance, and personal responsibility.