Losing a child is perhaps the most painful experience imaginable. The grief runs so deep that it halts life itself. This practical guide for grieving parents, their relatives, and friends addresses this issue: Instead of rigid phases of traditional grief models with their tasks and the goal of final integration, this entirely new approach accepts grief as a lifelong process. The two central messages are: All feelings are valid, regardless of timing. And: Those who grieve are not at the mercy of their grief. The book aims to encourage readers to rediscover their own creativity as a resource and to actively shape their lives—not against grief, but alongside it. "Be kind to your grief" is the motto, with the promise that: It will change, it will eventually get easier. Because grief can be transformed. Personal experiences of the author.