Many of us long for a sustainable, trusting relationship with our siblings. Anselm Grün, brother to seven siblings, illustrates how a good relationship with brothers and sisters can be achieved. The bestselling author draws from decades of consulting experience. "You can choose your friends, but not your siblings," is a frequently quoted saying. Brothers and sisters are often the ones with whom we spend the longest time in life. Ideally, the younger ones learn from the older ones, and intense relationships develop that can also sustain us in times of crisis later on. However, precisely because we have been together since early childhood, deep-seated conflicts often arise. Parents may favor one child and overlook the needs of the other. Mama's favorite - Papa's princess. Sooner or later, often decades later, a.