How to avoid the constant desire to be even better is explained precisely and warmly by the renowned child and adolescent psychiatrist Michael Schulte-Markwort. Today, children and adolescents are squeezed into a tight corset and a rigid schedule. This is caused by ambitious parents who pass on the pressure and stress they themselves feel. They only want the best and make a lot of fuss about the future of the boys and girls. In doing so, they forget that these children have to endure the turmoil. The author illustrates with numerous examples how the desire for optimal upbringing burdens everyday life and teaches us to see children and adolescents with open eyes again. His aim is to achieve the right balance between demanding and supporting. A first step towards healthy children: Parents learn to recognize what is important.