Julia Onken reflects on various stages of her unconventional life, rich in tensions and breaks, and makes the observation: Often, it is in failure and setbacks that a strength develops, enabling new beginnings and confident life design. In particular, women should be encouraged to believe that happiness can be learned. This is an inspiring book that does not boast of intellectual gymnastics but draws directly from real life. It is, in the best sense, a bold book that will empower many women to rise up from learned humility, dare to embrace the "despite," and be ready to experience happiness.