Those who have an abortion do not forget it tomorrow. Abortion is a death experience and it is an experience of grief. Miscarriage or stillbirth means a catastrophic loss for parents. It is irresponsible not to make women considering abortion aware that they are facing the same suffering. Worse still, since they have made the decision for the abortion themselves. And when women then feel their loss, they do not allow themselves to grieve, as they chose this step. Yet they need their grief - they desperately need their grief. As someone who has experienced this herself, author Dr. Susan Stanford provides valuable support for all those who wish to offer pastoral care. She shows women a path to healing that goes deeper than anything else. An important book, because the second victim of abortion is the woman.