Many leaders have lost touch with their emotions, and many suffer from burnout. They often do not sense what is necessary and required for the situation, the organization, and the employees. To awaken their own strength again, a carefully guided self-reflection is needed. A correspondence between a leader and their former academic mentor details the journey back to oneself. The author describes the feelings, questions, and doubts of leaders, as he knows them from numerous research and consulting contacts over the past years, as well as from his own leadership roles in various organizations. In their dialogue, the pen pals develop a collection of tools, a toolkit for the emotional competence and effectiveness of leaders. This way, the leader can unleash the potentials and resources of the employees.