Losing a loved one can change one's entire life in the long term. But what does "grieving" actually mean? Hansjörg Znoj, an expert in grief and mourning processes, addresses this question and describes, without pathos, what we generally understand by grief and what we think we need to do when we have experienced a loss. The fact is that the loss of a relative disrupts the social fabric. The effects impact not only physical health but also emotional balance. Studies indicate that up to 40% of all mourners exhibit symptoms of depression not only immediately but also for many years after the loss. Does this mean that the remaining 60% are grieving "incorrectly"? Not always does the loss of a close person lead to emotional destabilization.