Going your own way - easier said than done. Our entire lives are shaped by the expectations of others: bosses, partners, friends, and family. We want to please everyone and think far too little about our own needs and desires. However, living a self-determined life can be quite simple. Therapist Benita Feller has developed a technique that helps us discover our true selves and develop a healthy distance from external influences. This way, everyone can become the person they have always wanted to be. Not perfect, but self-determined. In short: The desire for self-determination is one of the most important life goals. Practical and competent: Benita Feller is a licensed psychotherapist who shares authentic stories from her practice. The author and therapist has her own technique called Blasente.