In every relationship, partners enter into unspoken agreements that they are often not even aware of. These agreements revolve around finding the right balance between care on one hand and the autonomy of the partners on the other. The success or failure of a relationship often depends on whether the rules regarding the partners' autonomy are maintained. Revenstorf highlights the underlying mechanisms present in every relationship: when these are understood and handled correctly, they can enrich the partnership; if not, they can lead to failure. Case studies illustrate the mechanisms that lead to entanglement between partners. Within these lie both potential conflicts and opportunities. Therefore, we must continuously work on our relationship, but we also learn that it can indeed be enjoyable to refine and invest in our relationship.