More closeness, better sex, intense desire over decades - where couple therapists usually advise modesty, Tobias Ruland shows that the square of the circle is possible. However, it only works if both are willing to learn true intimacy. Together yet still alone? Many couples suffer from a creeping sense of alienation when the hormone-driven phase of falling in love is over. They painfully miss the moments of great, exclusive closeness that could sustain a relationship over many years and through difficulties. Therefore, the book focuses on the question of true intimacy in couple relationships. What exactly does it consist of? How can it be rediscovered? How does it influence the quality of sexuality, and how is good sex connected to intimacy? According to the experience of the couple therapist, intimacy does not come naturally to couples; both must be willing to engage in it.