For couples therapy to be effective, it needs to be intense: emotions fuel conflicts. In the struggle for power within the partnership, needs for secure attachment, independent identity, and mutual attraction emerge through feelings. Often, losses and wounds from childhood are at play. This is where emotion-focused couples therapy comes in: it helps couples identify unfulfilled needs and vulnerabilities behind intense emotions. Partners learn to understand, manage, and harness their feelings for their development as a couple and as individual personalities—giving love a real chance once again.