Bancroft has opened a window into the minds of abusive men, and his book helps to open a door out of abusive relationships. Most books about abuse in relationships focus on women – how they are hurt, why they stay. While these questions are important, they can also distract us from the essence of the problem. Bancroft boldly poses the key questions and answers them brilliantly: Why do so many men abuse women? What can be done about it? This book is urgently needed and long overdue. This fascinating exploration of what drives abusive men is alarming, but the honest engagement with a difficult topic makes it compelling.