
Opinion
Doggo, my house won’t be your home
by Martin Rupf

Sooner or later, the question of a dog comes up in almost all families. I have a family dog, and I’ll tell you what almost drives me to despair – and why I’d still say yes again and again.
«So, would you recommend having a family dog?» a friend recently asked me over lunch because she was thinking about getting a dog herself. I’m asked this question from time to time, so here’s an insight into my family life with a dog. Perhaps you’re also thinking about getting a dog, have one yourself or simply want to understand why people come up with the idea of getting a four-legged friend?
Let’s start with the downsides of dog ownership. Yes, they do exist. For example, when you’re greeted by vomit on your beige carpet on a morning when you’re in a rush. Or when your children are out of the house for a change and you could just sleep in – but your dog wants to go out early like usual. Well, they can’t just go to the bathroom.
And then there are those moments when stains and sleeping in are really the least of my worries, because I’m driving home from the vet’s – without my dog, who has to stay there on a drip because he refuses to eat anything, even treats. This makes me think of all the beautiful moments with our dog, and the mere thought of never experiencing those moments again makes me miss them like crazy.

It starts with the fact that my dog gets up in such a good mood every day, quite unlike me. And is happy every time someone comes home. Not to mention how warm his head is on our feet. How he falls asleep curled up on my lap, even though he’s no longer a puppy. How he joins in with every role play the children do, as a police dog or a tiger. How he sits next to me whimpering when I’m stressed. He senses our moods. If a family member’s sad, he lies down silently, and gives them company.

«We have the best dog in the world!», the children say from time to time. When they list all the people they love, the dog is right at the top of their ranking. We’re united by our joy in him – and by our concern when he’s not well. Everyone who knows us knows our dog’s part of our family. If only because his name’s written on all the cards we send out.
My children had to learn from an early age that, although our dog’s good-natured, they shouldn’t stick their little fingers in his eyes or pull his tail. That when our dog curls up in this bed, it means he needs his rest. And that he needs to go out for a walk, even in storms and sleet.
The children love the dog, and they love to watch him eat. Every day, as if it were the first time, they watch him wolf down his meals of steamed vegetables and meat in a matter of seconds. Because yes, we cook for our dog – only the best for him. The children bring him all his toys from time to time – and sometimes he even plays along like an excitable puppy, which he no longer is.

Wherever the sun shines through a window, our dog lies down in this spot of light. Outside in the grass, he stretches out contentedly between the flowers and exudes a little dolce vita. He makes having a garden even nicer. Because then he won’t eat the unripe tomatoes from the bed that are poisonous to him – and won’t discover the only gap in the fence he can secretly slip away through.
Sure, my family life would be easier to organise without a dog. At this point, I have to mention our limited holiday options. The obligation to take our dog out every morning we spend as a family. No matter if we’re short on time or everyone’s in bed with a fever. But my life would also be so much less lively. Long before my first «real» baby was born, I spent my nights under the stars with him until he was house-trained. I’ve taken our dog on many walks through the most beautiful landscapes. When we communicate in nature without words, an invisible bond of connection between us, it gives me a feeling of energy and warmth.
But other times he’s got ignoring me down to a fine art. Especially when I give him too little attention and yes, that’s worth mentioning: as you become responsible for more children and animals, some needs occasionally get neglected.
Looking after a dog’s time-consuming. But it also has to be said that there are a few hard facts in favour of dog ownership. It’s been proven that daily exercise is good for you, both physically and mentally. When everyone’s getting grouchy in the house, «I’m taking the dog out» is enough. The ground under my feet, the fresh air in my lungs, the ever-excited dog leading the way: clearing my head in this way every day does me the world of good. With him, I don’t question whether our lap of the field has a place in everyday family life. Our dog has to go for a walk three times a day, period.

I’ve also met some nice people on dog walks. Most dog owners greet each other with a knowing smile – they’re all part of a community. But the dog community can also be challenging to navigate: I’ve been on the receiving end of savage abuse when I asked an owner to recall their dog, which was twice the size of my dog and had bitten his neck.
The friend I mentioned at the beginning said she feared that she would one day regret not acting on her dream of having a dog. At the same time, she’s aware of the immense responsibility owning a dog means – for a long time. If you write a list of pros and cons, it probably balances out (see below). Ultimately, the question of dog ownership is a very personal matter. I understand when people decide against it (like my colleague Martin). If in doubt, it’s probably better to give it a miss, when you read how many animals end up in animal shelters in Switzerland (linked page in German).
I got my dog back when I didn’t have any kids. Having a dog certainly restricted my choice of home, job and travel destinations. But it also opened up new worlds for me: new social contacts, always taking a deep breath, closeness, joy, consistency. I had my dog next to me when I became a mother, when my life took unexpected turns, when I moved home. He’s my faithful four-legged companion. And he became the best family dog in the world – my kiddos are right about that. Good-natured, resilient and cheerful. Even though dog ownership has, at times, brought me to the brink of despair, I would love to keep our dog forever. Much longer than will be possible.

What’s your answer to the dog question – and why? Feel free to share it with the Community in the comments
I'm really a journalist, but in recent years I've also been working more and more as a pound cake baker, family dog trainer and expert on diggers. My heart melts when I see my children laugh with tears of joy as they fall asleep blissfully next to each other in the evening. They give me inspiration to write every day - they've also shown me the difference between a wheel loader, an asphalt paver and a bulldozer.
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